“What marvelous love the Father has extended to us! Just look at it–we’re called children of God! That’s who we really are.” - 1 John 3:1 Message
In our human pursuit of all things fair, we may be tempted to think God loves us all the same, but I actually don’t believe this is true. The term, “same” sounds as though we might be replaceable. Like, “Oh no I broke the glass I bought at Target last week I hope they still have the same purple ones in stock.” Or “My dog just wandered off the grid, that’s ok I will substitute another one that I will love just the same.” In the realm of God’s love you are irreplaceable.
God does not love us equally… he loves us uniquely.
If you are a parent of more than one child you may already understand this. When that second, third or more child is born, your love is not divided it multiplies. Your love for each child is unique. Each child awakens your parental love in a different way. Interestingly you may love something unique about one child that is the opposite trait of something you love in another. I love her feistiness & I love his gentleness.
Equal also implies love may be measurable and it is not. Our Father’s love cannot be likened to a pan of brownies or a cherry pie that is painstakingly cut into equal portions so that no child feels slighted. His love is not a matter of portion control…it is far vaster than that. He loved you before there was a beginning and his love for you knows no end…it is ever lasting. Our father’s love is infinite. He does not have love for you (like here is your perfectly sliced pie piece)…he is love for you. Our Father’s love is infinite, intimate and unique.

Asher & Sophia: my grandchildren that I love uniquely.
You are uniquely loved because you are uniquely created.
When God created you he had your unique heart expression, smile, and voice in mind. There are facets of your life that reflect his love uniquely in our earth. He wove all these exceptional aspects and specific talents into the DNA package of a you.
This means if you are a son he does not love you more, if you are a daughter he does not love you less. He loves both genders uniquely. There is nothing accidental about any aspect of you. God was highly intentional when he wrote the story of your life and knit you in your mothers womb.
So what does this mean to you? Infinite is more than enough immeasurable inexhaustible love for all. Don’t try to be someone you are not in an attempt to earn the love and acceptance of others. Don’t compare yourself with another, there is no need for comparison or competition. You will only exhaust yourself. Be a true friend by being the authentic you. His love is more than enough. His love for each of us is equally unique. So celebrate unique & don’t settle for equal.

Lisa – u r brilliant! I love that- unique not equal! It makes me feel special to him! Keep the blogs Rollin!
Wow. Never looked at God’s love like this before……thank you
Love it! Favorite line: “There are facets of your life that reflect his love uniquely in our earth.”
Interesting question, Grant! I used to ask myself and God this all the time. I am not sure whether I have the correct ‘answer’, but I think that the love Joseph’s father showed him, metaphorically represents the love that religion and/or legalism shows us. Joseph’s father represents an imperfect model of love from a parent’s point of view, and the consequent result was tremendous heartbreak and strife in the family. Eventually, his love for Joseph led to him losing that very son once his brothers sold him into slavery. The love that God has for us is wrapped up in Jesus and this is an unconditional and perfect love, which is superior to impartiality or favouritism. Thus, we can approach him confident that our sins are not in the way of separating us from God’s love, and that God loves us as uniquely and individually by Grace in a way that the law (Joseph’s Father) could not and did not. That’s why having a relationship with God through being born again is greater than having a religious/legalistic relationship with God.
Lisa thank you for your article. Do you think parents have favouritism? and what causes the parents to “show” more love to the other child? like Joseph was his father’s favourite child…
I’d like to think that He loves us uniquely unconditionally or unconditionally uniquely. ;-D
Immeasurably, eternally, uniquely, perfectly loved by the Creator of the Universe. AMAZING!! We love YOU, Lisa!
This is an entirely new dimension revealed about Gods love.Oh how beautiful to know this……
Brillant word spoken right from His heart through yours directly into mine!
Thank you Lisa,
Pat
wow loved it! Being unique ( I looked it up) love it so much, being without equal or rival. Wow that really set us apart from one another. Wow again He loves us really just the way we are. Thank you so much,it bring tears to my eyes.
Good Word
Love to you and yours
Lisa, I love how you put this–it’s awesome to know that we are loved so awesomely and uniquely by our Heavenly Father. I am glad to know I can love my children uniquely without fearing that they will feel less loved than the other. You are a gift!
This is a beautiful word. After reading this, I feel even more special to God. I will be sharing this article with my women’s group. Thank you Lisa.
Jenny D.
Thank you for sharing this awesome revelation with us!
What a powerful word! It gives detailed expression to the psalmist’s words ‘I are fearfully and wonderfully made:marvelous are thy works…’.
Selah!